Be kind to your being and own your energy.
How is everyone feeling today?
I'm crawling back out of my cave after a beautiful weekend filled with song. I sing in a lovely women's choir and we had two performances this weekend.
I love performing. When I was a child, I wanted to be an actress.
I adore being on stage and giving it my all.
Today, I am crawling back out of my cave because although I adore being present and creative - I am an introvert. I require space and time to process through the people and regain my energy.
Maybe you can relate?
Every person has their own energy to them, and requires different amounts of energy to be around. When that energy is expected, we're great!
When there are personality differences, or unexpected occurrences, or simply a large amount of bodies, it can be overwhelming and deplete my energy tank.
Do you ever come home from spending time with many people and feel unsure of how to enter back into the energy of the quiet being?
Jumbled thoughts of "Why am I feeling this way? I had a fun time? Why am I unsettled? Did I misrepresent myself?". Expending energy can leave us all feeling that way - introvert or extrovert!
I have a process that I go through to unpack that unsettled feeling.
When I get home, I run a mental scan of my checks and balances to make sure my needs, and the needs of those around me are being met.
Imagine a bar of light travelling down from the top of your head down through to the soles of your feet. As the bar travels, take note of any unsettled pieces and bring them light and space.
Imagine them being filled with calm intention and acceptance and love.
Take your time. With practice, this get smoother and faster.
Sometimes this can take a little while to complete to find the "threats" - the bumps and bruises we acquire in interacting with different personalities.
Writing down the "threats" as they arise helps identify their real purpose (because it isn't just to make you feel uppity). Usually, it isn't a specific detail that is causing the discomfort.
Often, it is simply signalling a need for space and regeneration.
Scan and identify.
And then let go.
Letting go is key. It brings space for the energy to return.
I do this by bringing gratitude for the learning that can take place.
And for the process of becoming.
My introverted being isn't trying to keep me away from people, or from having fun.
Quite the opposite.
Acknowledging my energy tank needs allows me to enter into activities with an awareness of boundaries that can increase my enjoyment.
For my extroverted readers, the same technique can be used to scan and see where you need to bring awareness to in the search for people to meet your energy needs.
How do you care for your energetic being?
Please leave a comment to help the other extroverted readers! Sharing is caring!
So this week, instead of apologizing for your energy needs, try to bring mindfulness and do a few scans to see if being unsettled stems from a need for energy balance. Bring attention to the energy demand and let the strain of being different go! 💕
May your week be filled with kindness.
Here's to becoming!
One Little trick to magically improve your life!
I have a question for y'all today:
What habit would you most love to magically acquire?
By habit, I mean "a settled or regular tendency or practice, especially one that is hard to give up." (thanks Oxford!)
I don't mean the garment worn by members of certain religious orders (although, in case you are ever in need, visit here to order).
I should also explain that acquiring a habit is a different question from what would you change about yourself. That can be a topic for another day.
Habits aren't related to innate ability. They are most definitely learned.
A set of actions that has become so ingrained, it is almost automatic.
Habits are handy ways our brains can automate positive action, and darn stubborn ways it can automate negative ones.
If I could wave a magic wand, I would grant myself a daily meditation practice.
I have had a meditation practice at various times in my life, and it was wonderful in connecting me to a sense of calm and purpose.
The habit shifted as I grew and dropped off somewhere between going to university and starting a family.
I have moments of mindfulness worked into my days now, but not a dedicated sitting practice.
Maybe I'll start tonight!
Based on how uncomfortable that above statement was to write, I can tell starting a meditation practice takes me to the edges of my comfort zone and would likely be amazing for personal growth.
So does that discomfort mean that now is not the time, or that I am on to something important?
One way to find out is through engagement.
If you have been reading these posts, you will know I am a fan of the timer.
I will set a timer for a comfortable amount of time in starting to acquire a habit - maybe two minutes to start.
If that turns out to be too long to start with, I can always shorten it.
But I won't know unless I try.
Alright lovelies - today's that day!
I will enter into this renewed endeavor and see if it brings me joy and positivity. If it empowers me.
If it could be something that potentially serves.
If I engage and it feels heavy, or negative, or dis-empowering, I give myself permission to stop.
Kindness in action.
Currently, the most helpful habit that I have built into my life is my gratitude journal.
At the end of the day, I write three line in a journal, simple point form of what I did that day and what I am grateful for.
I include handy little symbols in the margin to track pain or illness or cycles, etc.
The whole process takes less than 5 minutes.
I started this back in June 2015 and suddenly I have almost 4 years of data!!!
It's amazing what trends you can see if you have the evidence.
Even in a small amount of time, habits can be profoundly transformational.
One small step can snowball into greater awareness and greater ownership. Who doesn't like feeling in control?
A few examples to get your habit started:
Wellness - gratitude and attention to the present moment.
Nutrition - how 'bout those greens?
Spirituality - mindfulness and meditation.
Organization - dedicated spot for papers?
Fun - scheduled weekly friend time.
Career - devote time to one action item that moves your business forward.
Creativity - review artistic work that inspires you.
Learning - sites like Duolingo are magnificent for languages.
So, what habit would you most love?
Leave a comment below! I'd love to hear from you!
Wishing you a fabulous weekend,