A window into happiness
Let's talk about happiness!
At Life Coach Online, we are a big fan of strength.
There are many different profiling surveys around for personality and character: Myers-Briggs, CliftonStrengths, Enneagram, Hogwarts Sorting Hat, for example.
Important note, I am totally a Hufflepuff.
Whenever I come across a new-to-me survey, I like to see if it fits with how I experience my life. How I can use that potential information to better advocate for myself and my purpose.
This week, I came upon the VIA Institute on Character.
Their research suggests that there are 24 unique characteristics that impact happiness, including our development of resilience and positive relationships!
The extended definitions are available on their site, but here is a list of the basic 6 categories:
• Wisdom and Knowledge: Creativity, Curiosity, Judgment, Love of Learning, Perspective
• Courage: Bravery, Honesty, Perseverance, Zest
• Humanity: Kindness, Love, Social Intelligence
• Justice: Fairness, Leadership, Teamwork,
• Temperance: Forgiveness, Humility, Prudence, Self-Regulation
• Transcendence: Appreciation of Beauty, Gratitude, Hope, Humour, Spirituality
The test takes about 15 minutes and ranks the strengths from 1 to 24.
I found the test a bit vague in points and it was easy to read the questions in a number of ways, but it was fun to see how they ranked my strengths.
My number 1 trait: appreciation of beauty and excellence.
My number 24 trait: humility.
Pretty accurate on the end points I think.
The thing is, everyone has all 24 traits.
Just because a character trait receives a lower ranking, doesn't mean it isn't accessible. Or that it is a weakness. It just means it isn't as easily brought to the fore-front. You can still access it.
Someone who ranks a 1 on humility and a 24 on beauty might view me as a pompous flake.
Does that mean it is true?
It means that we can all be mindful of our character differences and allow for space in the interactions.
When we meet others with similar characteristics, we feel more at ease and relaxed.
When we interact with opposite rankings, it is trickier.
Why I like learning about these traits, is that it removes the "failure" aspect from the interactions. It isn't that I chose to be a pompous flake, it's a feature!
If I just worked harder, or was less of X, then they would like me... or it is my fault that blah blah blah...
Nope. Not your fault. Just a different and still-equally-valid feature.
It is when we learn to balance our strengths and how we use them in our lives that we create effective and efficient space for everyone.
When we learn to use our strengths in the right way and amount, we can create happier and more balanced lives.
Let me know how you did!
Or more importantly, which Hogwarts House are you?
Have a fun week!
Tea-loving awesomeness. Challenging perfectionism.