Try Self-care instead!
Let's get down to work.
Part of showing up regularly to our goals is muddling through the noise and bother.
Of finding a way through the "I can't" and the "It will never happen".
Making excuses is not an action step.
Pushing forward towards our goal by taking steps, even teeny tiny ones (especially teeny tiny ones), is what we celebrate.
Showing up to tend to pull weeds daily results in a beautiful garden.
At Life Coach Online, when we talk about showing up, we mean being present.
Are you an active participant in your life, or are you letting life happen to you.
Pause for a minute and read that sentence again, can you spot the inaccuracy? Hello black-and-white thinking!
It isn't an all-or-nothing approach.
It isn't a pass or fail situation.
It is your life, and it will have moments of aware and moments of present and moments of autopilot and moments of distracted.
You can carve your way through the jungle of unknown through as many paths as it takes to get to your destination.
You can try one way today and another tomorrow if it feels more successful.
The point is to keep intentionally showing up to cultivate your goal.
The practice of showing up is really the practice of being a mindful presence. And of owning your actions.
Do you avoid working because it is too uncomfortable - that's okay! IF you are choosing that.
There will be days that feel impossible, that's okay!
Make a plan in advance with micro-steps that you can take when you are stuck.
Eventually, the micro-steps will add up to giant leaps! (Trust me!)
When you find yourself being distracted and avoiding work (actively or inactively), it DOES mean something.
You don't have to be in active growth mode all the time (how exhausting!).
We want sustainable habits. And balance.
Both of those require self-care.
Next time you catch yourself struggling with a task or growth opportunity, ask:
Am I choosing to distract in this moment, or is my body signalling a need for self-care.
We are trained to ignore or body's needs in society (especially as women!).
Work longer! Push through the pain! Sacrifice yourself for your family, your career, your school, your literally-any-obligation.
Here, you get to choose.
How are you going to handle those moments?
Is that societal script serving you in some way (it can and does occasionally!).
Keep what works for you and WITH you and reframe the rest.
You are awesome and are worthy of care.
So, make your excuses, but do it with ownership!
Take time to honour your need for care and attention.
Build micro-habits into your daily rhythm and trust that, in time, you will get to your goal! And with self-care, you are more likely to get there in one piece.
Very much love,
Tea loving awesomeness. Challenging perfectionism.