Time to Slay that Imposter!
I want to touch on a fun topic today!
One which often comes hand in hand with perfectionism.
Our sneaky friend Imposter Syndrome! Woo Hoo!!
Most people can relate in some way with that 'plummeting of confidence' feeling of showing up and that self-doubt creeping in.
The fear of being exposed as a fraud...
That "I'm not good/smart/proper/worth enough to be here/doing this presentation/teaching/talking" feeling...
If this sounds like you, you are certainly not alone!
Some of the most high achieving and amazing women I have met occasionally still struggle with this!
Sources say that 70% of people are found to struggle with Imposter Syndrome at some point. (When I did the research in preparation for this post, the references led me on a wild goose chase of broken links, if you would like more details, send me an email!).
Put another way, Imposter Syndrome can be defined as the inability to internalize accomplishments.
So in other words, even if we have accomplished the authority and worth of being included/teaching/leading, we don't allow ourselves to remember our worth.
With that understanding, here are:
3 ways to combat the feeling of fraud!
1. Practice positive mindfulness
Prepare a list of 5 positive points about yourself.
Write that list down (go ahead, I'll wait).
Post it where you can see it.
For example, my list would include: awesome, non-judgmental, fair, direct and open (and super humble).
These traits allow me to do my job with confidence and authority.
Keeping those in mind when I am out of my comfort zone allows me to do my job effectively.
Side reminder: If you need a bit of help, email me to schedule a free 30 minute discovery call. In our coaching sessions, we work together to clarify and highlight your traits.
With this list, practice holding awareness of the positive traits at various neutral points throughout the week.
I suggest posting this list in the bathroom at home and next to your coffee cup in the office.
When you are faced with a presentation or an event where you are asked to step outside your comfort zone, these points will be easily called to mind.
This allows us to move from a sense of empowerment rather than fear!
2. Define your terms
Look at the why behind your fear.
Instead of dismissing the discomfort as fear of being seen as a fraud, take a look at why that is important to you.
That fear is trying to tell you something.
This will allow you to connect with the message you are trying to get across.
The "why" you are showing up and succeeding!
Ask the question, how do I define success?
What is important to me in this moment?
Break it down to tiny chunks and watch the wins flood in!
Once we understand that we have a desire to be understood and have our hard work validated, we can skip the projection of failure and fraud.
3. Practice with intention
Step 2 allows us to access why we are showing up in the first place.
This step, practicing with intention, reminds us to focus on our own growth journey, not just that of those we serve.
When asked to give a presentation, or whatever fills you with fraud, allow for room to explore how that looks.
How are you learning in that moment?
Imposter Syndrome does not serve you. It paralyses you.
These tools will have you saying goodbye to that fraud!
So, let's take some deep breaths, write out awesome list, and remember why we started.
You've got this!
I'm proud of you!
Tea-loving awesomeness. Challenging perfectionism.