Even when you "Can't Even".
Well Lovelies, it's the start of a new week.
That positive huzzah was a big step for me.
Still in full Dragon Protocol here and feel fragile.
Still showing up though! So there is cause for celebration!
This blog isn't going to write itself. And I love being here with you!
As life coaching is a beautiful way to support growth through every aspect of life, I strive to be real with you. Unforeseen challenges in life are not an excuse to stop working. It is a chance to create a new way of functioning as we navigate through the present realities.
If I were pretending everything is easy and sunshine, I would be doing you a disservice. But we can weather the stormy changes together!
Even a seasoned pro at using the tools has to continue to use them in times of hardship. Some weeks, life reminds you that it is a struggle. And that's okay.
Usually, we already know what to do, or we can grab new resources.
We put in work, and gain new tools, and find a way forward.
Then we can bask in the glorious gentleness and ease of that work coming to fruition. (If it only worked that smoothly all the time!)
Occasionally, the difficult weeks line up one after the other because of life events that are beyond your control (such as grief and wretchedness).
Aside from using different tools, it is important to not stress about the down episodes because they pass just like the positive moments.
Using the tools we discuss in this blog, and implement in the sessions, is not a guarantee that positivity will reign. Just like the hard times, positivity is transitory too. We can use the low moments to create space for a greater appreciation of the positive times. And build resilience and empathy.
Resilience is a badass feature of every strong person that I know.
We all have experiences that we have risen from the ashes and been reborn a fiercer version. So let's move through these challenges, knowing that this rebirth is going to be well earned and full of awesomeness!
You, my friend, are magnificent and are doing the best you can with the tools you have. And it is glorious.
You wouldn't be reading a life coach's blog unless you had the awareness that life is something to grow through.
I am proud of your growth. And grateful that you are here.
Let's look for ways this week that we can be a little more gentle with ourselves in regards to the time needed to move through the low moments.
Inspiration and motivation will return when we give them space to enter.
And part of that space, is kindness to self.
So you are having a hard week, big deal. Let's work it!
What IS a big deal is how you treat yourself through it.
Your thoughts matter.
If I could, I would give you a little glittery blue dragon figure to live in your mind's eye. This dragon (named Awesome) reminds you that you are worthy and that you are doing your best.
Actually, it would reward your "best". Doing your "best" isn't important. Sometimes a sleepy half-assed attempt is good enough. Heck, sometimes even standing is super-hard. This dragon celebrates it all! Party times!
Sometimes you might not want to do much of anything, or feel overwhelmed by the hard work, and there is NO SHAME in that.
This is a shame free space.
We are all learning how to be our fiercest selves. And shame is not invited.
Your efforts, at whatever level you can bring them, are enough.
You are working this hard road towards self love in a society that actively promotes otherwise.
Here, we have a community of accepting your awesomeness and rooting out what doesn't serve you. Slay queen!
So, here's to a new week of beautiful possibilities. Let's give ourselves permission to show up as is, and give permission to our minds to stop fighting for perfect. Remember, simply starting is enough. Bring it back to basics.
Let's do this!
Very much love,
Tea loving awesomeness. Challenging perfectionism.