One Little trick to magically improve your life!
I have a question for y'all today:
What habit would you most love to magically acquire?
By habit, I mean "a settled or regular tendency or practice, especially one that is hard to give up." (thanks Oxford!)
I don't mean the garment worn by members of certain religious orders (although, in case you are ever in need, visit here to order).
I should also explain that acquiring a habit is a different question from what would you change about yourself. That can be a topic for another day.
Habits aren't related to innate ability.
They are most definitely learned.
A set of actions that has become so ingrained, it is almost automatic.
Habits are handy ways our brains can automate positive action, and darn stubborn ways it can automate negative ones.
If I could wave a magic wand, I would grant myself a daily meditation practice.
I have had a meditation practice at various times in my life, and it was wonderful in connecting me to a sense of calm and purpose.
The habit shifted as I grew and dropped off somewhere between going to university and starting a family.
I have moments of mindfulness worked into my days now, but not a dedicated sitting practice.
Maybe I'll start tonight!
Based on how uncomfortable that above statement was to write, I can tell starting a meditation practice takes me to the edges of my comfort zone and would likely be amazing for personal growth.
So does that discomfort mean that now is not the time, or that I am on to something important?
One way to find out is through engagement.
If you have been reading these posts, you will know I am a fan of the timer.
I will set a timer for a comfortable amount of time in starting to acquire a habit - maybe two minutes to start.
If that turns out to be too long to start with, I can always shorten it.
But I won't know unless I try.
Alright lovelies - today's that day!
I will enter into this renewed endeavor and see if it brings me joy and positivity. If it empowers me.
If it could be something that potentially serves.
If I engage and it feels heavy, or negative, or dis-empowering, I give myself permission to stop.
Kindness in action.
Currently, the most helpful habit that I have built into my life is my gratitude journal.
At the end of the day, I write three line in a journal, simple point form of what I did that day and what I am grateful for.
I include handy little symbols in the margin to track pain or illness or cycles, etc.
The whole process takes less than 5 minutes.
I started this back in June 2015 and suddenly I have almost 4 years of data!!!
It's amazing what trends you can see if you have the evidence.
Even in a small amount of time, habits can be profoundly transformational.
One small step can snowball into greater awareness and greater ownership. Who doesn't like feeling in control?
A few examples to get your habit started:
Wellness - gratitude and attention to the present moment.
Nutrition - how 'bout those greens?
Spirituality - mindfulness and meditation.
Organization - dedicated spot for papers?
Fun - scheduled weekly friend time.
Career - devote time to one action item that moves your business forward.
Creativity - review artistic work that inspires you.
Learning - sites like Duolingo are magnificent for languages.
So, what habit would you most love?
Leave a comment below! I'd love to hear from you!
Wishing you a fabulous weekend,
Tea loving awesomeness. Challenging perfectionism.