What does "done" look like for you?
Sometimes sitting down to write a blog post feels like a monkey banging on the keys.
Ooo Ooo Oooo. Eeee Eeee Eeeeeee. Smash, crash!
And voila - a blog post.
In starting the creative process, I always begin by typing at random.
I practice writing with intention and radical forgiveness.
I sit down in front of my computer and acknowledge that this feels HUGE.
Content creation is important to me.
Helping people is important to me.
Meeting my readers' needs is important to me.
Every time I sit down to write, I know that resistance will be sitting down in front of me. Every. Time. It's a given.
I like to treat resistance like a pet cat (see image above).
It likes to sit on my keyboard and prevent me from writing.
I say hello, move it aside, and start typing.
Resistance gets bored after a few minutes and leaves me alone.
It knows I am the Queen of Consistency.
I am not here to play.
When I started Life Coach Online, it was out of a desire to show people that they are worthy of space in this world.
That their unique strengths and gifts should be honoured and honed.
And those strengths can be used in creating the life they desire and deserve!
This blog is intended as a way to provide inspiration and motivation to anyone who needs it. To give people the tools to work ease into their lives.
One of the main struggles that plague perfectionists is the paralysis that comes when it is time to hand of a completed task.
It feels like there is too much riding on the outcome, that you could have done better, that it is almost perfect, just a few more tweaks!
That only perfect is worth publishing.
And if you don't produce perfect... you aren't worthy of the job at all.
To that I have a question:
Who decided what perfect looks like?
As high-achievers, we tend to rapidly form a vision based on the information we have been given. A vision of completed excellence!
But who are we actually pleasing?
Our boss? Or friends? Or is it our self?
If it is an outside entity, did they directly tell you what "done" looks like?
What do they value in this situation?
A completed product, or an overwhelmed you?
If it is an overwhelmed you, give me a call, we can sort that out, you are worth more than that!
Will they notice all the small details that you painstakingly combed through?
Or will they spend a few minutes on it and move onto the next project?
Think of it like picture day in school (bear with me).
Think back to either yourself or your kids' school picture days.
Do you remember how much work you put in to caring about how they (or you) looked?
That the nice shirt was ironed (ha!) and hair was clean and combed...?
Do you look at those photos and remember the details, or see the details, or do you see the overall picture of someone you loved?
Do you judge yourself for the wear and tear that may have happened outside your control that day?
I don't remember what I wore in any school photo... or what my kids wore... but I remember that I cared at the time. And that it was IMPORTANT!!!
All the control over all the details!
Just like all those small details that prevent you from pressing send.
From handing in that completed project... because it isn't "done".
So let's redefine done. Redefine perfect.
Perfection can't happen in a vacuum.
It will never be perfect until it is released and fresh eyes can help.
The best school photos are ones where the photographer lends a quick hand in correcting the last minute scuffs that happened once you let go.
So, let that project be.
Let it get to the next stage and trust that you did the "appropriate-ist" that you could (which is your actual best).
Because best is knowing that others will treat the project with importance on their end too.
Tea-loving awesomeness. Challenging perfectionism.